tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2082725097254166808.post8161870495796646002..comments2013-03-21T11:58:35.193-05:00Comments on Team Griffis Page: Jan 20, 2010Team Griffishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12307866017252101288noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2082725097254166808.post-29443836571692157252010-01-20T18:15:12.193-06:002010-01-20T18:15:12.193-06:00Saundra,
I am reminded of you so often throughout ...Saundra,<br />I am reminded of you so often throughout my day! As I was cleaning the kitchen, I had the stereo going, and there was a song that made me think of you and what you are going through. Jimmy Dell sang that these things that make me happy, are not mine at all, God has let me borrow them. Everything we have in our lives, is a gift of God, bestowed on us in love, but they are still God's. This will probably sound frivolous, but think of the happiness you had, have, and will receive. I love you, and I pray for you daily. <br />Love and Prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2082725097254166808.post-83621187629428324922010-01-20T13:44:10.024-06:002010-01-20T13:44:10.024-06:00I found you through Kristie's blog and I have ...I found you through Kristie's blog and I have never commented before. Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and your family daily. I don't know the loss you have suffered from your perspective, but I do know it from your children's perspective. My father passed away suddenly when I was 21 (9 years ago). I can tell you that I still miss him and think of him, but it has definitely gotten to where it doesn't hurt as much.<br /><br />JessieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2082725097254166808.post-51542538528082889512010-01-20T12:31:39.154-06:002010-01-20T12:31:39.154-06:00Saundra, I have been following your blog since the...Saundra, I have been following your blog since the beginning. I can't say that I have been there other than seeing my mother going through this. Attached is a story I found while doing research for a Wednesday night youth lesson at church and it rang out to me.<br /><br />A miserable looking woman recognized F.B. Meyer of the train and ventured to share her burden with him. For years she had cared for a crippled daughter who brought great joy to her life. She made tea for her each morning, then left for work, knowing that in the evening the daughter would be there when she arrived home. But the daughter had died, and the grieving mother was alone and miserable. Home was not "home" anymore. Meyer gave her wise counsel. "When you get home and put the key in the door," he said, "say aloud, 'Jesus, I know You are here!' and be ready to greet Him directly when you open the door. And as you light the fire tell Him what has happened during the day; if anybody has been kind, tell Him; if anybody has been unkind, tell Him, just as you would have told your daughter. At night stretch out your hand in the darkness and say, 'Jesus, I know You are here!'"<br /><br />Some months later, Meyer was back in that neighborhood and met the woman again, but he did not recognize her. Her face radiated joy instead of announcing misery. "I did as you told me," she said, "and it has made all the difference in my life, and now I feel I know Him."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2082725097254166808.post-70648169199139383982010-01-20T10:24:23.600-06:002010-01-20T10:24:23.600-06:00you can tell in your writing today that some of yo...you can tell in your writing today that some of your prayers have been answered. you sound peaceful today. i hope those are the feelings going through you right now. continuing to think of you.<br /><br />JennaJennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03319480910736919349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2082725097254166808.post-30163659954889279222010-01-20T08:52:50.519-06:002010-01-20T08:52:50.519-06:00Saunie -
As you know I have the same personality ...Saunie -<br /><br />As you know I have the same personality issues with Derek as you have with Isaac. While attending a parenting class, I learned a great technique: "An accusation breeds anger, a question breeds conviction." Example: One night while helping Derek with homework he, which he did not want to do, his attitude was really awful. Instead of pointing out to him that he was treating me disrespectfully, I asked him if he thought his attitude honored God. Being the first time I had taken this approach, he became very defensive, but I remained calm (which is key) and to whatever he replied, I turned my response to a question. (How do you want me to help you? How can we work together to finish your homework so that you can have time to do something else?) It really does work! The second thing I learned at the seminar is that I have the only person that I will ever have complete control over is myself. That means, that no matter how hard I try to control Derek's behavior, my greatest control comes from my response. When I control my response and remain calm, it really does make these times better. Finally, I have learned to walk away. There will always be times when no matter how you try you will not be able to resolve the situation in that moment (that's called life). When these times come, walk away. This leads me to the other lesson I learned at the seminar - consequences. Example: Drew HATES wearing coats. Until I learned this, every time we would leave the house Drew and I would bunt heads over him putting on a coat. But in only took him one time to learn the consequence of not wearing a coat, when we were to attend an outdoor parade and it was really cold. It took tough motherly love for me not to share my own coat, but Drew has not thrown a fit over wearing a coat since that time. Some times allowing our children's choices to play out with negative consequences (as long as they are safe) is the best way for them to learn and change. (If they don't do well in school, they don't get to play their sports. or If they don't clean their room, they don't get to play video games) Teaching our children that all choices have consequences - good or bad. I have learned, also, that prayer is my strength. On any particular day when I have bunted heads with either of the boys, I have found that prayer results in a better outcome.<br /><br />I hope this helps. I know it has helped me. I love you!<br /><br />DebbieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2082725097254166808.post-80123464137684438022010-01-20T07:31:12.456-06:002010-01-20T07:31:12.456-06:00Dear Saundra,
What an uplifting message, especiall...Dear Saundra,<br />What an uplifting message, especially since yesterday was so difficult. It gives me hope that my Father will get through it too, and that I will be able to accept my Mothers death and move on from denial.<br />Prayers and continued good thoughts ... <br />ToddToddnoreply@blogger.com